Conjugal Honour (Casti Connubii Pius XI).
“It was because you were unteachable” he said “that Moses allowed you o divorce your wives, but it was not so from the beginning” (Mt 19:8).
It’s because in the past two generations we
have been found to be unteachable and a pseudo type of relationship became
confused with conjugal intimacy and conjugal honour. A forced and artificial application of the
conjugal state has been forced upon society. A societal invention. A pseudo conjugal state which cannot even
contemplate but only simulate the intimate community where conjugal honour resides
and its where “life” can abide.
Beginning with “living together” which can be said to be a trial run or even a
probation marriage where if difficulties appear the intimate community of the
couple can be disbanded or even when
desires wane and something new is sought then that community which can envelope
and protect life is abandoned.
The couple entering pseudo marriage cannot
establish the intimate community which lasts the term of life, the same life
that they hide from view because of the agreed temporariness of their pledge
based only on physical responses.
Otherwise the union would be sought to be made whole and total. The Conjugal union would be so honoured that
it would seem to be right that that union be protected from intrusion into that
intimate community so that life residing there would know that honour.
Probation intimacy, divorce, make to fade
that intimate community (where love abides) because both are a rejection or
refusal of that knowledge about conjugal honour. Conjugal honour has slowly
been withdrawn from the intimacy of the couple.
Rejection of conjugal honour cannot see that in
every woman is written the code word
“mother.” In that conjugal community “mother” has a special meaning. And
male has the code word “father” with its own special meaning. These two words
are the result of honour given to both who’ve entered that special intimate
community which constitutes married state or marriage. Conjugal honour is
deeply written into the sexual act and may not to be violated because “it was
not so in the beginning” (Mt 19:8.)
Loss of conjugal reverence has led to
abortion to exponential growth. Loss of
knowledge about conjugal reverence has meant that there are several generations
who have not known or been taught about holiness of the body and how the body
has been designed to be honoured because it has been created to be a part of an
intimate community in the image of divine, because like the divine it was
designed to perpetuate life. Not a
group or community of people gathering with the same beliefs and ideals but an
intimate community so holy and where
only two may enter and be held together there to continue the work of
furthering creation. The template
community designed by God “in our own image” (Gn1:27). This new intimate community
is to imitate that love and life.
We have abortion to horrendous degrees. We
have purposely sterile relationships. We
have death demanding calls, because first there was a loss of honour. Loss of
conjugal honour. Loss of conjugal awe. Loss of conjugal reverence and unholy intrusion
into that space of intimacy where only honour, respect, reverence, and awe
should have abided because this sacred place is the office of the nature of
love. The understanding what intimate
love is and be manifested.
Modern sexual couplings (experimental/life choices/refusal of conjugal intimacy) cannot declare conjugal honour because of the pseudo nature of that intimacy fails part of its mandate, donation from him to her and her to him and their individual donation gives a gift of wholly and completely of themselves to the other. No other can ever replicate the original donation.
Within every marriage there abide three persons, the husband, wife and Holy Spirit (lord and giver of life) who enters the union and remains. The spirit does not know how to be party to fourth or fifth, sixth, intrusion. The holiness of that union is so because the Spirit has accepted the vow of fidelity and the spirit does not know how to be unfaithful. Understanding of the language of the body not in prudishness but with
respect, reverence and awe because it’s the way God deemed the mystery of life
A return to the understanding of how God desired life must needs be the new overtures spoken to humankind which must speak again to man and woman and speak to them of their precious spousal nature which is not to be used and abused, discarded, because reverence for their bodies has been rejected and the community of intimacy invaded and the gift designed in that community, the infant discarded, but they are to hear their true story which is that they have been created for life and great honour.
The new language must the speak truth within these times, the truth which has been lost or even forgotten or a distant memory, as the echo of something which happened long ago. It must speak of the conjugal mystery an honour due to it which tabernacles life. It must do this because due to the loss of such knowledge the language spoken in this day serves death. The new language for recovery of treasures of the Garden (conjugal intimacy) must speak of Holiness and speak the word life.
Dear
friends I hope you like the above I began thinking about this and its meaning
when I came across the words “conjugal honour”. I have pondered much about this
as I scan our society and its trajectory.
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Modern sexual couplings (experimental/life choices/refusal of conjugal intimacy) cannot declare conjugal honour because of the pseudo nature of that intimacy fails part of its mandate, donation from him to her and her to him and their individual donation gives a gift of wholly and completely of themselves to the other. No other can ever replicate the original donation.
Within every marriage there abide three persons, the husband, wife and Holy Spirit (lord and giver of life) who enters the union and remains. The spirit does not know how to be party to fourth or fifth, sixth, intrusion. The holiness of that union is so because the Spirit has accepted the vow of fidelity and the spirit does not know how to be unfaithful.
A return to the understanding of how God desired life must needs be the new overtures spoken to humankind which must speak again to man and woman and speak to them of their precious spousal nature which is not to be used and abused, discarded, because reverence for their bodies has been rejected and the community of intimacy invaded and the gift designed in that community, the infant discarded, but they are to hear their true story which is that they have been created for life and great honour.
The new language must the speak truth within these times, the truth which has been lost or even forgotten or a distant memory, as the echo of something which happened long ago. It must speak of the conjugal mystery an honour due to it which tabernacles life. It must do this because due to the loss of such knowledge the language spoken in this day serves death. The new language for recovery of treasures of the Garden (conjugal intimacy) must speak of Holiness and speak the word life.
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